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To the "nice-guys"

Sat Jun 17, 2006, 11:23 AM
Taken from another journal entry

I didn't write this!


This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finishes last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.

The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, insane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.

Repost this if you're a nice guy
Girls Repost if you're lookin for this/or appreciate these guys

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For the dudes who get misunderstood and get screwed for whatever reasons.. like in situations where you didn't do anything and could prove it but are blamed and told-off anyway. To the guys where girls always ask for a nice guy and even though you are right in front of her, you're only the friend. This one is for the guys that only other guys in their position would understand how they really feel over a nice bottle of beer. To the guys who always finish last.


We feel you.


Rock on, One Love. :peace:


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:iconsurfer-girl:
"... can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches"
well said man! i agree!

apparently i have a brain 70% of a guy, so maybe thats what makes me get along with boys better than the female specimen.
but yeah, heres some advice to the nice guys, dont settle for the cheap whores, go for the nice girls too =)

hows college/tafe or whatever going?

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:iconslamdunker:
nice one, i have met some of thoose girls, but by the time i realized it was like that, i broke up with her. i have way enough homies to talk to. i made 3 couples part because of talking to the girl, i said what was wrong, and suddenly she saw it, the relationship ended with her bf. i am thick of activating their minds, i would like to have a gf who is just as much unlocked as i am. as long as i am not gonna find any, i will stop unlocking other people.
:iconydnas:
rock on man.

That post was very true. Thanks.

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:iconintrinsicvalue:
I'm with you... nice guys deserve their dues.

I think you gotta give the girls some credit too. Like the one's who have a thing for their best friend but help them buy flowers for the girl they're trying to ask out. The girls who give up concerts, or dinner with friends, or who watch crappy movies or guys playing Halo just to spend time with them.

It goes both way, you know?

So from my perspective, here's to all the nice suckers... let's hope there is such a thing as karma.

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:iconsmuggler-of-mos-espa:
I rememeber when I saw this in Mike's journal last summer. I was clinging to it for weeks, telling myself that I fit that catagory so fucking well.

Here's to the nice guys. :ahoy:

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:icontirwen:
There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.


This is very true. And some of them grow out of it early enough and some never do. But, you make a lot of good points...

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:iconrealityxcrisis:
Very true. I agree with everything said, even though I am dissing my own gender.
I only hope that I'm not like that O.o

To the Nice Guys!

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:iconbeaucarnea:
just want to say... there are nice girls too with the same problems... not many want a "nice intelligent girlfriend" but a "cool and sexy one"...

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:iconhenners:
I'll post it anyway :P

Long time no see btw. How you been?

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